Rebounding From Defeat
By Cheval John
Photo courtesy of Stuart Miles
A person will experience a defeat at one point in their lives.
When they do experience the defeat, they have two choices: stay down or get back up.
If you stay down, you will be sending a message that the adversity is too much for you to overcome.
It might be easy because you do not have to try again to fulfill your dreams of being successful to make a difference in the world.
However, you will end up feeling regret because you chose to wallow in your defeat.
On the other hand, when you get back up and try again, you will be a step closer to fulfilling your goals.
You will see your momentary defeats or setbacks as life lessons that will help you to avoid making the mistakes that led to your defeat.
For example, the Sam Houston State Bearkats team suffered their first ever defeat in Southland Conference (SLC) action against arch-rival Stephen F. Austin on their home court at Johnson Coliseum on January 24th.
The Bearkats could have decided to feel sorry for themselves because of their loss to the undefeated (SLC) conference leaders.
Instead, they regrouped and strung together three straight wins including the 79-50 win against Lamar to remain in second place in the SLC with a 9-1 record (17-5 overall).
So if you get knocked down by defeat, get back up.
Because you will inspire others to keep on chasing their dreams to make the world a better place.
Don’t Cry When Things Don’t Go Your Way
By Cheval John
If you feel that things are not going your way, celebrate because the adversity can be a way for you to discover your strengths.
You might have aspired to play professional baseball, but had a injury that derailed your dreams.
Or wanted to work at a prestigious company, but they did not take any interest in you.
Though they are “devastating” events, it was a blessing in disguise because you were meant to do more with your life.
When I started college late in 2003 at 22 years old, I felt that I was behind everyone who were about to graduated with their college degrees.
I was thinking that if I had started college immediately after moving to Huntsville, Texas, then I would have been able to graduate at the same time as the others.
I had made up my mind that I was going to try and graduate with my Bachelor’s Degree as fast as I could.
Though I enjoyed college, making friends and learning my second language as Spanish major, I was constantly comparing myself to others who were making money in their jobs because of their degrees while I was working in the fast food industry during my time as an undergraduate.
When I finally graduated in 2009 from Sam Houston State via Lone Star College (gained Associate Degree in 2007), I thought I was going to join the work force because of the degrees.
However, I was wrong as I had graduated in the middle of the “Great Recession” and I was looking for work because I had quit the last fast food job.
I was angry, feeling sorry for myself and blaming people because I thought if I had only started college before 2003, I would not have been in this position in looking for a job.
At that moment thanks to my parents, I understood that I had a lot to be thankful for because I had achieved my college degrees despite graduating high school with a 1.9 G.P.A. that prevent most people from attending college.
If I had graduated in 2003, I would have missed out on the opportunity to gain valuable work experience in public relations, journalism, television, and radio.
Also, I would have missed out on covering Sam Houston State football consecutive national championship appearance in Frisco, Texas, the baseball team winning three consecutive Southland Conference Championships and three at-large berths in the NCAA tournament and of course, the Bearkat bowling team winning the school’s first ever, NCAA Division 1 National Championship.
So celebrate your failures because they are the lessons that will guide you to your eventual goals that will allow you to make the world a better place.
Common Courtesy Goes A Long Way
By Cheval John
Photo courtesy of Stuart Miles
Just because we are in the age of social media does not mean that it gives a person the right to act a fool.
Over the last few weeks, people have posted mean things about others especially celebrities.
They feel that they will not be caught because they post these mean tweets as anonymous.
The only question is why would they post the mean tweets if they will not say those mean things in person?
The possible answer is that they have felt so insecure their entire lives and believed that putting other people down makes them feel better about themselves.
They do not realize that when they put down other people on social media, it will wind up hurting them in the long run because the person is developing a bad reputation to others.
If they only lift people up by sending a complimentary thank you note,tweet, etc. to the person for a great article they wrote, they will make their day and also will feel better about themselves.
I can guarantee that you will build a strong reputation for not only being a generous person, but will create a strong support because you took the time to be courteous.
Build Your Mental Strength Through Adversity
By Cheval John
Photo courtesy of stockimages
Sometimes life will throw you a curve ball when you least expect it.
When the curve ball occurs, you have a choice of whether to go out and have a pity party or pick yourself up and continue to fight for your dreams.
It is true that you have no control over your circumstances.
However, you can control your emotions.
When you want to go after your dreams, they will be a force of resistance that will try to stop you from achieving your goals.
Resistance and adversity are there to test you and see what you are made of.
If you really want to fulfill your goals, then you will find a way to overcome the resistance and adversity to achieve your goals.
At the same time, adversity is your friend because it allows you to build your mental toughness and develop the strength to push through to achieve your goals.
Just like an airplane flies against the wind to receive lift.
So if you are going through a tough time, do not give up.
Your breakthrough to fulfilling your dreams is right around the corner.
Your Employees Are Your Ambassadors
By Cheval John
You always hear the old saying that you want to leave a job on good terms and don’t burn any bridges.
It seems as if this message is only implied to employees because they are the ones who are working for a paycheck.
What if I told you that this message can be applied to employers as well?
I am here to tell you that it does implies to employers as well because that employee can either make or break your business.
You see if an employer does not allow their employees to shine and hinder their growth or mistreat them, they are doing them a disservice.
And when that happens, it leads to bad customer service and then the employer will put out more material of how to treat the customers or threaten them with discipline and send them towards retraining.
All of that will cost more money that will hurt the business.
The biggest thing that employers don’t realize is that “Their Employees Are Their Ambassadors.”
When the employers realize that, they will treat their employees right and in return, will generate great customer service that will create more money.
And when the employee do leave, they will talk about their experience at your company.
It only a matter if the reference to your company is good or bad.
For example, Kelly Hungerford, who I had the honor of interviewing on my show, “What’s The Word?, was with Paper.Li for over three years.
During her time there, she created the #bizheroes twitter chat that has grown to about 700,000,000 impressions on Twitter.
Though Kelly is a freelancer now, she is continuing her work with Paper.Li as an ambassador because she believes in the people and their product.
The other reason is because the executives from Paper.Li allowed Kelly to be herself and gave her the freedom to be innovative that has benefitted the company.
So if you want to make sure you business thrive in the 21st century, treat your employees right.
Because if you don’t, your company will end up failing because of the bad referrals and reviews.
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